She’s unapologetically strong, brave, and righteously confident.
When she looks like she has her shit together, she probably does. And if you question what she can give to you, leave her alone.
To love a woman who looks and gives off the feeling that she doesn’t need anyone is to understand that she doesn’t need you – she wants you. Even if she struggles to ask for something in the relationship she still wants you.
This kind of woman is so focused on her career, on building herself, and living an amazing life that she doesn’t have time to worry about what others think of her. She is too worried about being a boss and taking control of her life.
She doesn’t need you to be intimidated by her or her strength, but just to see her.
She cries and she feels, and she knows that there’s not actually anything wrong with her because she’s single, but because of the way women like her are seen. She is still a woman. She’s not infallible, but she just simply knows what she wants and desires. Even more so, she knows what she is worth.
To love a woman who is like this is to be secure within your own masculinity. Those men who thought they were up to the task of loving her but who fell short when they started comparing themselves to her or who became jealous by her success—by her confidence. They saw her as a threat to their own sense of self, but the difference is this woman will not make herself smaller if your heart starts to quiver.
She will not be the weeping willow and instead will simply level up and leave. She’s used to making hard choices and big decisions; she’s used to having to choose herself, because no one else has. She’s grown accustomed to people changing and being too much for her and the fire that she creates with her passionate ways. She’s used to others just seeing her as what she does rather than who she is, and so she needs a man to be strong enough to be strong for her. To compliment her, per se.
A man who doesn’t need permission or a rule book in order to love her.
A woman who looks like she doesn’t need anyone needs a man who will not apologize for his opinion or thoughts, one who is as confident in himself as he is in his love for her. A man who knows that this woman who stands before him is so much more than what meets the eye, and while she may be able to tame the world with a single look, she still is craving a love that she can lean on—one that will show her why it was never meant to work out with anyone else.
It’s always taken a special kind of man to love a special kind of woman.
It’s the kind of love that doesn’t take second guessing or relying on gut instincts. She respects herself too much to expect anything less than what she brings to the table. She is not perfect though, nor does she expect her man to be, but she does expect accountability and honesty. She also expects trust and communication. To her, these are the simple things – the things a man is expected to know before approaching her. We make mistakes, we all have a past, but we’re expected to own it and grow from it.
A woman like this is like a lotus flower blooming in muddy waters.
She learns, changes, grows, and is forever looking at ways she can improve herself and life so that it’s more beautiful, more fulfilling, so she needs someone who has no desire to live within the status quo. Someone who doesn’t need to check boxes in order to feel satisfied by life. A man who puts a higher price on individual growth than on the security of a traditional relationship. Someone who will kiss her lips and wish her well as she boards the plane for a trip by herself; the kind of man who trusts enough to let the love be the loudest words spoken between them—never fear.
The kind of love that doesn’t need its hand held to know that it’s there but never hesitates to reach out. One that doesn’t play games about whose turn it is to make plans and understands that busy isn’t an excuse. The life of this kind of woman will be busy, but there will always be room for you—there will always be space for the kind of man who adds value to hers. Because she chose him. She wants him.
The thing about this woman is that she is like that in every aspect of her life. Her love is like that too. When she loves, it surely is within depths of other dimensions.
This kind of woman longs for someone to just know that her heart still feels regardless of how strong or in charge she might be. To first be seen as the woman in your life, the softness to your hard, and not just the woman who’s ready to take on the world—even though she is. She’s stilettos and bare feet, merlot lip gloss, and chin up because that’s what we do.
To love this kind of woman is to know that the key to her heart is him—because the only thing this woman needs from a man who accepts her is him. All of him. Not the material things or the the elaborate dates.
When you have everything else—the only thing left is love.